I’m sure that a lot of people, like me, have wondered at some point why people cheat. And I do not mean cheating in tests but on people with whom they’re having a romantic relationship. There is nothing pleasant about finding out that your significant other (SO) is cheating. Not unless you’re cheating too and need a reason to justify your actions ( Bad reason, it’s still wrong). Even then, it can hurt knowing you’re not number one.  

cheating 4Bearing that in mind, what would you do if you discovered your friend’s SO cheating? Would you tell your friend or keep quiet about it? Many times in movies (non-Nigerian) I’ve seen that it is expected that you tell. I’ve seen similar comments on forums online where it is believed that a good friend would tell. I have also been told by some of my friends who are not Nigerian that they would like to know. However, as a Nigerian, I can not say that we have similar expectations. 

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I have never been in a position where I had to make the decision of telling a friend that the person they are/were involved with is/was cheating. But I have wondered about it based on stories I’ve heard. I honestly think it is important for a person to know if they’re being cheated on (at least for health reasons, if nothing else). I would want to know.  I just don’t know that I am willing to be the bearer of such news. It is said that what you don’t know can’t hurt you.  It can and it does.

So, I ask again.. What would you do if you find out your friend’s SO is cheating? What factor(s) would influence your decision or actions? If you’ve been or are in this situation, what did/will you do?