A few years ago, while walking along a street in Coventry, I noticed a woman walking ahead of me with a little boy I presume to be her son. The child must have been about 4 years old or so and she was holding him with her left hand. wrongI watched her stop, pull the boy to the side and take down his pants so he could urinate. EH?? My eyes nearly popped out of my head. All I could think was.. ‘this woman must be Nigerian’. True enough, when I got closer and heard her speaking on the phone, I knew I was right. Ah ahn!

A lot of us have witnessed men indiscriminately ‘peeing by the roadside‘. It’s certainly not new to us. In fact, a lot of people don’t bat an eye when it happens. It’s become normal, not even worth thinking about. Ah, I beg to differ. There is nothing normal about it. Picture this; you’re driving somewhere and suddenly see women ‘peeing by the roadside’, how would you react? Can you imagine your mum, sister or significant other doing that? What thoughts would pop into your head? I’m willing to bet that none of them would be ‘Oh, that’s no big deal’. You’d probably be irritated.  Let me list some other things I’ve got issues with, in no particular order;

  • Wrong gifLadies stepping out with ‘bendy rollers’ and ‘hair nets’..seriously not cool. Why are you at the mall with those?
  • Guys ‘sagging’ their jeans, pants..whatever. What is cool about copying a foreign tradition that originated from prison?
  • Using the word ‘nigga’. Er..let’s not even get into that
  • Throwing stuff on the streets or on buses. If you do this, you’re a slob! Stop complaining when the drainage system in your area gets blocked.
  • Not cleaning up after using a public restroom/toilet. Yea, slob!
  • Honking when the traffic light changes from red to amber. What gives?
  • Giving children ‘soft drinks’ like Coca-cola or Pepsi (And you wonder why they’re hyperactive).
  • Styling a 3 year old girl’s hair with extensions. Why, abeg?
  • Complaining about the current or past government even though you had the chance to but didn’t vote. O ya e gan..
  • Talking about corruption while you ‘one up’ your boss every chance you get. How noble .
  • Speaking on the phone (especially sans hands free kit) or texting while driving. You’re a hazard!
  • Complaining about what’s wrong where you live but never attending or contributing to any ‘estate or area’ meetings when you’re available. Abeg, shift.
  • How about the terrible customer service we get in most places we visit? It’s so bad that ‘seemingly good’ customer care is such a surprise. A lot of these ‘service providers’ seem angry to me; I may be wrong..

Wrong RightI can go on and on. Of course, these are just some of the things that irk me but I believe some of them do or should bother you too.  Interestingly, some of the people who commit some of these acts know well enough not to do it when they go overseas or even to Ghana? So, why is it alright to do them here? How can anything get better if we stay the same? How about doing the right thing even if it’s not the popular thing. If it’s right, it’s right even if you’re the only one doing it. One person has the power to affect the world. Let’s be the change we want to see.

Please, share some of your own experiences or irritations in the comments section. I would love to hear from you.